25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that He might present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ~ Ephesians 5:25-28
As Warren Barfield put it, love is not a fight, but it’s certainly worth fighting for. I saw this on some social media the other day. It said:
I messaged my father-in-law today, and said:
“You need to come get your daughter, she’s driving me nuts.”
Him: “Package is opened, seal is broken, item is used, warranty is expired. Sorry, that’s not a manufacturer’s problem.
And so, it isn’t. It’s your problem, husband. For you are the one that is instructed to love your wife as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for the Church.
You likewise must give yourself for your bride. You must meet her every need. The need to feel safe. The need to tell you all about her day and to hear about your day. The need for a protector.
And you wives, you aren’t without responsibility. You, too, must find your husband’s love language and speak it fluently and speak it often. Remember, you are your husband’s number-one cheerleader. Find one good thing he does and talk about it for a while.
It’s not stroking his ego; it’s stoking the flames of love that will burn bright in your marriage. A flame so huge it would take the rains of a category 5 hurricane and the winds of an EF5 tornado to put it out, and even then, it will still burn bright.
Peace. Love. Go Forth and Love Is Not A Fight.